Thursday, July 6

Poetry Thursday

glass on our porch, canon digital rebel xt
(the driftwood you see is a windchime made for us by Letha with sea gems she found on a trip)

Not too long before my husband proposed to me, we sat in a bathtub facing one another and he read this to me, line by line, out loud. With tears in my eyes, I accepted the invitation...


by Oriah Mountain Dreamer, Indian Elder, May 1994

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living
I want to know what you ache for,
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love,
for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon, I want to
know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain!

I want to know if you can sit with pain,
mine or your own, without moving to hide or fake it or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with
wildness and let ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without
cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being

It doesn’t interest me if the story you’re telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself,
if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.

I want to know if you can see beauty, even if it’s not pretty every day,
and if you can source your life from God’s presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the
edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “YES!”

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after a night of grief and despair, wary and
bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done for the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you are, how you came to be here. I want to know if you
will stand in the center of fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself,
and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.


Blogger Sarah e.Smith said...

What a beautiful poem...thank you for sharing :) You certainly have a very romantic hubby :)

July 6, 2006 at 10:09:00 AM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have this book- I love that poem too, and if my husband read it to me in a bathtub I fear my heart might have exploded. What a beautiful moment it must have been (and as usualy your photography is awesome)

July 6, 2006 at 10:34:00 AM PDT  
Blogger claireylove said...

*I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself,
if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.*

I really love this.

Thanks so much for sharing.

July 6, 2006 at 10:47:00 AM PDT  
Blogger LiteraryGirl said...

I love this. How romantic! Have you blogged about the proposal yet? I'd love to hear what a man who read you poetry in the bathtub did to ask you to marry him...

July 6, 2006 at 11:12:00 AM PDT  
Blogger Darlene said...

I think between emailing you and reading this...I have cried enough happy tears for the week!

Good god Carsten!!! Brother....I never knew?...Actually, I did...because this is how you live your entire life.

I have to "Thank you" for loving my sister so deeply. You make her so incredibly happy!

Carsten is 6'4" ? Must have been a BIG tub! hee hee

smugs xxxd

July 6, 2006 at 11:16:00 AM PDT  
Blogger pinkcoyote said...

i just had SO much catching up to do! you and carsten are BEEEEYOOOTIFULLL. i love you so much. the way you live each day is inspiring and wonderful to me. thank you for leading the way.

July 6, 2006 at 11:40:00 AM PDT  
Blogger Unknown said...

Wow. That's beautiful and full and deep. It gives me a peek into your relationship and souls that you would both respond to words that question every fiber of who you are and if you are truely strong. These words are inspiring. so when is carsten going to get a blog? You'll be the most loved couple in the blogiverse. :)


July 6, 2006 at 11:53:00 AM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

what beautiful words...and the two of you sitting in the bathtub joined by them seems so perfect and sweet.

i am wishing and hoping all the stars aligned for you yesterday...

July 6, 2006 at 11:53:00 AM PDT  
Blogger a m y said...

this is beautiful...i'll be sharing it with my sweetheart :) your husband sounds like an amazing person - what a fabulous couple you two must make!

best to you, with all that's going on...you are wonderful.

love to you!

July 6, 2006 at 12:02:00 PM PDT  
Blogger melba said...

How beautiful!

July 6, 2006 at 12:33:00 PM PDT  
Blogger liz elayne lamoreux said...

oh i love this one. i just love it. and boho boy is such a romantic. love that.

the colors in the picture are wondrous!!

July 6, 2006 at 3:16:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Goddess Leonie * GoddessGuidebook.com said...

loving that love, and the invitation honey :)


July 6, 2006 at 4:05:00 PM PDT  
Blogger savvycityfarmer said...

How many years now for this romantic romance???

May you "grow old together"

Consider yourself one blessed woman.

July 6, 2006 at 5:04:00 PM PDT  
Blogger turquoise cro said...

O! How sweet that driftwood windchime is!!! You'll have a touch of us all before you know it dear child! How romantic, a bathtub poetry serenade!

July 6, 2006 at 5:18:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Jim Brock said...

Wow, that's good. Of course, the rest of us men really hate guys like your man. Lucky, lucky you!

July 6, 2006 at 5:31:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

beautiful. the poem, the windchime. the persons behind them. :)

July 6, 2006 at 5:52:00 PM PDT  
Blogger gkgirl said...

that sounds very romantic

and i love the picture,
the light coming through the
colored glass...
that gets me every time

July 6, 2006 at 6:00:00 PM PDT  
Blogger ::Bek Geach:: said...

You two are pure gold.
So very sweet of your hubby.
What an angel he is.
Such a special moment and memory to hold in your heart for all of your days.

July 6, 2006 at 6:29:00 PM PDT  
Blogger ::Bek Geach:: said...

BTW... I knew I read this recently... here:

Carrie's Blog

What a small blogging world I have... tho the sistas are all very different.

July 6, 2006 at 6:34:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Drea said...

Beautiful glass. Your so artistic.
Inspires me to get back into art. Even since I became a Mom Ive gotten so busy I lost my interesting.. I think its coming back tho heehee!

July 6, 2006 at 6:57:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was going to say I especially loved the two lines bb said she loved, but then I came to the comments and saw she'd beat me to it, so instead I will just say the whole damn thing is great, and I would have cried my eyes out if the man I loved had read it to me.

July 6, 2006 at 8:11:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Deirdre said...

I love this poem. It says everything. And woo-hoo to you - a man who reads poetry to you in the bathtub. ;)

July 6, 2006 at 8:31:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Sarah .B. Scott said...

This is a beautiful poem. I love it, really captures the true meaning of a marriage, the meat of it. Oh, and where di you buy the glass orbs that are suspended in rope? I LOVE them!

July 6, 2006 at 10:57:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Amy said...

Wow. This hits me right in the heart. I have some thinking to do!

July 6, 2006 at 11:25:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Alex S said...

oh! It opened! (So often when I try to leave you a comment the box stays white/totally blank and I have no idea why) This is SUCH a meaningful poem it brings tears to my eyes. I hadn't read it in too long. Its one of my mother's favorites, and I find that so incredibly moving that your husband read it to you. It says a great deal about his heart and soul. Thanks so much for posting it!

July 6, 2006 at 11:59:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Susannah Conway said...

'I want to know if you can be alone with yourself, and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments'

such an amazing poem, and such beautiful circumstances to hear it in! Have you read her book What we ache for? i think it would speak to you, little petal

ps. Mr Kroon is such a smoothie :-)

July 7, 2006 at 3:16:00 AM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

'I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the
edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “YES!”'

...love the poem but this verse is such a reflection of my hubs and i....it's so important to learn from each other, to know the darkest sides we have and still, choose to love each other again, and again, and again...

you have such a sweet boho-boy!!

love to you!

July 7, 2006 at 8:21:00 AM PDT  
Blogger Kristine said...

This is the best poem I have read in a long time. It really captures what comes to mind when I think of a great, very intimate relationship.

July 7, 2006 at 2:20:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Ceebie said...

Wow...May I be as blessed as you to find a man who reads poetry like this to me in a bathtub!

Wonderful poem, thank you!

I too, would have cried my eyes out if this were read to me by my love...

July 8, 2006 at 6:13:00 AM PDT  
Blogger la vie en rose said...

this is one of my favorites. i have this book and i've copied this poem i don't know how many times so that i can have it in various places just to remind myself of the way i want to live and what's important to me

July 9, 2006 at 7:54:00 PM PDT  

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