Saturday, September 30

french kiss

my marmie & me, taken by Suz

My mother is full blooded French and my father is full blooded Portuguese. Both cultures love to kiss. Whenever our families get together you will see us hugging and kissing as we greet one another and even more throughout the day. I had a friend that once told me she never kisses her parents on the mouth, only the cheek. She loved how close and intimate our family was when it came to showing affection. To me it was all I knew growing up around such passionate people.

If any of you gasped at the title...it is in reference to my mother being French. Don't worry...we don't use our tongues! Just a play on words, my friends.

Since my father is so dark and that is usually dominant, my sisters and I appeared darker than my mother. I have the darkest skin and eyes but both of my sister's hair are shades of brown and black. Growing up, we used to tease my beautiful mother about being adopted because she had ivory skin, red hair, freckles and green eyes and none of us looked anything like her.

What is interesting is, as my sisters and I grew older, our cheekbones came through, our faces changed a bit in shape and each of us started resembling our mom in different ways. Now when we're all together it is obvious that it was her womb where we all came from. I still look very much like a female version of my Dad when he was my age but now I also see her face in the mirror.

I am so very proud of my heritage and even more proud that we are all passionate kissers.


Blogger Colorsonmymind said...

Oh this is so sweet. I am mostly a cheek to cheek fake kisser-LOL except with my hubby of course:)

My mom was a big, full body, long lasting, grab your hiney, toe to toe hugger (as I have told you already),but a bit of a germ phobe when it came to kissing.

I think my kissing habit is also a combination of an innate fear that my breath stinks(probably from my mom being a germ phobe:)and that a lot of people in my family and my husbands family don't kiss hello and goodbye often and definitely not on the lips. A cheek with the sound of a kiss seems to freak them out less.

Do you kiss your in laws on the lips too?

I am truly fascinated.

I wonder what my mother in law would do if I planted a kiss right on her lips.


Anyway-I think this photo is sweet and I am happy you made me think about my kissing.

Your whole family is gorgeous!

Loving you darling

September 30, 2006 at 7:41:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Georgia said...

I love this!!!

I myself spent so many years building up boundaries, I think several years ago when someone tried to hug me or kiss me in greeting I would have shrunken away. Only my closest dearest friends were ever able to break inside those walls to give me a real full body hug, or a kiss on the cheeks or mouth in greeting. However I have been working on letting others in and have found that the kisses on the cheek are nice, and the huge close hugs, and just being close are FANTASTIC!!! I am proud to say that now with the right people I have no problem sitting closely and rubbing shoulders, hell even holding hands!!! That for me is quite huge.

I love that your family is this way!!!



September 30, 2006 at 8:04:00 PM PDT  
Blogger LiteraryGirl said...

Love this post and pic (and the new banner pic, too!). I'm a physical person, so kissing and hugging and touching are second nature to me. I wish we lived in a culture that greeted each other with a kiss on the cheek. At our house we call them "British's", so we have kisses, British's, Eskimo's and Butterflies. That's a lot of kissing!

September 30, 2006 at 9:26:00 PM PDT  
Blogger liz elayne lamoreux said...

how i adore this love and joy here.
i would love to just spend the day with you and your family some day....

September 30, 2006 at 9:30:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When I look into your eyes I see the precious daughter that I love and can't resist a little peck on your poochie lips. That was a happy day and lots of love in the air at La Jolla.
Plenty more where that came from.

September 30, 2006 at 11:27:00 PM PDT  
Blogger gkgirl said...

this is full of sweetness
and i bet there are alot of us
out here that wish we could be
that "passionate" with our own

October 1, 2006 at 5:10:00 AM PDT  
Blogger la vie en rose said...

what an absolutely sweet pic! ...can i be adpoted by your family???...

October 1, 2006 at 9:05:00 AM PDT  
Blogger bronxbt said...

CUTE PIC. so good to have such passion and love between all family members. nothing wrong with a peck on the cheek or the lips.



October 1, 2006 at 11:06:00 AM PDT  
Blogger Maggie May said...

I, too, come from a family of mouth-kissers (although I think it is because my parents came from decidedly less demonstrative stock). Ours is a home bursting with love; the one where all the wayfaring children end up, where a random assortment of near-strangers trickle in during holiday meals, etc. I wouldn't trade my openly affectionate upbringing for all the world!

October 1, 2006 at 12:31:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Darlene said...

i love our family :)

our passion is clear and I'm blessed to share them with you!

love u sis


October 1, 2006 at 2:56:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very cute photo and story. And I love your new banner!

October 1, 2006 at 2:57:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

so precious. my family is not very physically affectionate and I have always longed for that closeness. you guys are such an amazing, sweet bunch of folks.

love ya

October 1, 2006 at 3:22:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Alex S said...

I love your posts about your family. You all exude such warmth and vibrancy. It also reminds me, sadly, how aloof or "frigidlike" we Americans tend to be. It makes more sense to me now that you have added your parents are European born. There is just so much more open affection not just in European culture but I noticed it when I lived in the Middle East as well. p.s. I hope your father is continuing to heal well! I'm sure all that kissing and hugging helps wonders!

October 1, 2006 at 4:27:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Admin said...

i guess i saw the bone structure first...before the colouring of the skin and the eyes....cuz i could tell right away that you are your mama's baby!

October 1, 2006 at 8:58:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Admin said...

p.s. i'm particularly thinking of pix you've posted of your mom and you in the past...while i was still lurking. ;)

October 1, 2006 at 8:58:00 PM PDT  
Blogger turquoise cro said...

Sweet! photo Boho gal! My husband is Italian and they are always kissing! My Mom is always there for a kiss on the mouth, especially in greeting and saying good-bye. My dad and I hug and kiss on the cheek! xo

October 2, 2006 at 9:14:00 PM PDT  

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