Saturday, January 13

Leonard Kroon {update}

Leonard in his late twenties

Boho Boy's father, Leonard Kroon, passed away this morning.

We received the phone call from his mother while we were near a beach. I knew the outcome by the look on my husbands face. I wanted to wrap my whole self around him but I gave him the time he needed on the phone and just rubbed his back. The first thing he wanted to do when he got off of the phone was to go down to the ocean. So we did. We sat up against the sand and watched the waves come in and out of shore. Tears would come and go along with the waves as we shared memories and emotions. We felt his spirit with us.

Leonard was 83. He married Carsten's mother, Birgit when he was in his forties and her in her twenties. As I said in my previous post, he was a musician, artist, antique dealer, anthropologist and archeologist. Quite the interesting fellow. In fact, what won Birgit's heart over was when they were on a drive for a picnic, he told her he had a friend in his trunk after she had heard some noise coming from the back of the car. She laughed and didn't believe him. So, they got out and as he opened the trunk and lifted up a blanket, there was a box. In that box was a skeleton. He told her that someone had found the bones while digging up land for a house and had asked him to do research on them. Right then and there she knew she would marry this man. When they had Jon-Erik, then Carsten, their life was full of adventures, digs and treasures. Their house looked like an archeological museum and still does to this day. He was like a Canadian Indiana Jones!

I am so blessed that I had a few years to get to know him. He always called me dear. "Hello dear", he would greet me with. While sitting on the beach today I thought one of my fondest memories with him. We were sitting on the porch in Canada, just him and I alone for the first time. We were going through old civil war letters he had found and he told me some interesting stories. We had an intimate talk about his sons and he told me how very happy he was that Carsten and I were married. He smoked his corn cob pipe. I sipped my wine and the breeze danced in our hair while the sun went down. I knew in that moment that this feeling would stay with me my whole life and comfort me when he was gone from this earth. I was right.

Death is odd. The reality of it all comes in waves. We will miss him so much. We already do so badly.

Carsten's mother, Birgit has been taking such wonderful care of him for years now. It is time for us to take care of her and help her adjust to a new way of living.

Thank you for your prayers. Birgit printed out and read Leonard my previous post about him this morning, as well as your comments. This made both Carsten and I cry hard. Little did you know your words would be such a comfort in his passing hours.

He finally rests in peace with no more pain. I bet he's digging up treasures in heaven already.

Update: We are heading out tomorrow morning to be with his mom for a few days. Thank you for your warmth and support. Tonight we again went down to the ocean and while my husband and I were holding one another, looking out onto the waves, I had an image of Leonard dancing, playing piano and partying with his friends up in the sky. So tonight we had a drink at the hotel bar where we stayed the night of our wedding, to toast Leonard and his newfound happiness. I had a cosmo. Boho boy had a gin and tonic. We haven't had a drink in months. We laughed and shared fun stories about Leonard. We both felt THAT is what he wanted us to do tonight. To celebrate his life. So we are and will continue to do so. Be back soon...until then we'll be lovin' on his moma.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Goodness it's hard to type through the blur of tears.........for your sweet husband, for his lovely mother, for you. My thoughts are with you all. Grief comes in waves. Don't fight it. Let it wash over you and then let it go each and every time. Leonard spirit will never be truly gone. He lived magnificently and with passion.

January 13, 2007 at 4:50:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my love and sympathy to you and your dear family. your posts about your father-in-law are moving and inspiring. he sounds like a wonderful man. your telling of his story reminds us all of fabulousness of a well lived life, full of curiosity and joy.

take care,


January 13, 2007 at 5:06:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dearest Denise, I´m so sorry to hear of the passing of your father-in-law. My prayers for you, carsten, his mother and family will continue.

Tears filled up my eyes when i read that Leonard's wife read the comments to him also...

My thoughts are with you and carsten.

I'm left without words.

Take care sweetie,


January 13, 2007 at 5:30:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my love goes out to you and your family tonite. i've lit a candle for your father in-law and his wife, for his safe passage to the next world and for her comfort and peace.

it sits next to my candle i keep lit for mark.

peace to you and your husband tonite.

January 13, 2007 at 5:30:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I hope you and Carsten find peace for now, and in the future.

Much love, and many hugs, Meridith

January 13, 2007 at 5:33:00 PM PST  
Blogger Deirdre said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.

January 13, 2007 at 5:37:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sad for you all right now, but happy that your father-in-law lived such a rich and exuberant life. Sending you lots of love and strength to focus on the good memories...

January 13, 2007 at 5:39:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh honey... My love and a warm embrace for you and your family.


January 13, 2007 at 6:34:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to read this...I truly am. I made a little inhale sound when I read this. So many of us losing loved ones lately - I sincerely hope they all meet in heaven. I know my dad would be fascinated beyond belief by Leonard. Please convey my sympathies to your husband and his family, how well I know this loss and it WILL come in waves.
It's so wonderful you have this precious memories to recall.

January 13, 2007 at 6:51:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

p.s. It is said for everyone that dies, one is born...extra extra special maternal prayers for you, Denise.

January 13, 2007 at 7:18:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I lit candles and imagined hugging the two of you.

Loss is so strange.

He sounds like a wonderful man with a rich life, curiosity and tremndously loving family.

Loving you.....

January 13, 2007 at 7:21:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Lots of love and gentle hugs to you both. Your portrait of his adventurous, gentle life is a beautiful gift in and of itself my dear. I will be thinking of you both this evening.

January 13, 2007 at 7:28:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This post has me feeling all mixed up. I am sooo sad about this news. I started crying when I read about you sitting on his porch with him. What an amazing man he sounds like.

To think of him "digging up treasures in heaven" makes me smile though... There is always a silver lining.

Love to you,


January 13, 2007 at 8:10:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Rest in peace Leonard....Brigit live out loud, dance like no one is watching and remember that at the end of your wonder*filled dance Leonard will be there to dance you home and in the mean time he'll enjoy watching you live life fully.
Much love and hugs to both boho's in this time of healing.

January 13, 2007 at 8:15:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss. My father-in-law passed away a few years ago and it nearly broke my heart. It took my husband a long time to get over it, as much as you can ever get over the death of a much-loved parent. Wishing you lots of love and strength.

January 13, 2007 at 8:22:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. May your father in law rest in peace.
Love to you and your family.

January 13, 2007 at 8:30:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i am so sorry to hear this, d.

i love how you describe him....bohoboy is very lucky to have your love during this difficult time. you both are in my thoyughts and prayers.

all my love,


January 13, 2007 at 8:35:00 PM PST  
Blogger turquoise cro said...

O, I am sooo sorry Carsten and Denise, for your mother Carsten and Jon-Erik, death is so final, we are never ready! I'm sooo glad you had this precious time with Leonard Boho, smoking a corn cob pipe, ahhhHHHH, I can smell it now! I was just thinking of Leonard while ago and now I can't even remember what I was thinking about him, this post was a shock! What a handsome man I thought as I saw his new pic and then that message tore me up! I'll be thinking of all of you sweeties, LOVE and in my prayers, xoxooox, Cinda

January 13, 2007 at 8:38:00 PM PST  
Blogger Deb R said...

I'm so sorry for Carsten's and your loss. He sounds like a remarkable man and how wonderful that you were able to have some time with him and get to know him. Your family is in my thoughts~~~~

January 13, 2007 at 8:55:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh honey...my heart feel when I read the first line of this post and I immediately had a lump in my throat. Please give C my love...I wish was near to prepare you both tea, build you a fire,light some candles give you hugs and kisses...and then be on my way.

So much love to you both....and my deep sympathy.

Love you,

January 13, 2007 at 9:09:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i, too, pass along my love to you and your husband. he sounds like an amazing man to have known. I am so happy he was able to pass on in peace knowing he was loved and prayed for.

January 13, 2007 at 9:45:00 PM PST  
Blogger LiteraryGirl said...

So very sorry for you and boho boy. Between this and Mark...you must be feeling a lot of emotions right now. I pray for peace and calm during it all.

January 13, 2007 at 9:53:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What a delightful man - thank you for sharing him with us. Many blessings to you and your family...

The thought of death leaves me in perfect peace, for I have a firm conviction that our spirit is a being of indestructible nature. It works from eternity to eternity.

- Goethe

January 13, 2007 at 9:53:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You and your family remain in my thoughts and prayers.

January 13, 2007 at 10:37:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to hear of Leonard's passing. He sounded like such an interesting man, I can only imagine the stories he had to tell. What a blessing that you were able to get to know him. Sending you and your family love and light during this difficult time.

January 13, 2007 at 10:42:00 PM PST  
Blogger liz elayne lamoreux said...

i am so sorry to read this denise. what an incredible man he sounds like...a spirit full of adventure and delight. that is beautiful...

i am sending you and your dear husband (and his family) peace and light tonight. i will light a candle and pray for all of you.

January 14, 2007 at 12:27:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

what can i say? nothing really. a new candle on my altar has been lit for you and your family and i hold you all in my thoughts.

January 14, 2007 at 12:44:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

oh honey, i am so sorry to hear this... big love and light to carsty and you and the kroon family...

and blessed be leonard on his rainbow journey ~ what a rainbow radiant king he is.

with love and light

January 14, 2007 at 2:00:00 AM PST  
Blogger Susannah Conway said...

I can see Leonard up there, digging away, and i can also see that R has found him and they are having very interesting conversations, while drinking wine and smoking (Leonard with his pipe, and R with a cigarette)... I am sending all my love to Carsten and Jon-Erik and to you... and especially to Birgit... xxoo

January 14, 2007 at 4:00:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

so sorry to hear of your loss, love to both of you x

January 14, 2007 at 4:38:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear about your loss... I hope you all find peace. Many blessings.

January 14, 2007 at 5:19:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh I'm so very sorry for the loss of a beautiful man. Rest in peace dear Leonard and I know he is with you. Safe travels and take care of your hearts. xo

January 14, 2007 at 5:23:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry, Denise- and please give my condolences to Carsten as well. After losing my dad in September, I know all about the waves of reality- unbelieving at first, then it hits you, then you cry, then you're grateful for your time together... it all seems so surreal.
Leonard sounds like a wonderful man and I am sure he will be watching over all of you- while digging, of course!
Many blessings for you both and for Birgit...

January 14, 2007 at 6:46:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your family's loss. I hope soon you will be able to throw a party and celebrate his amazing and wonderful life! It sounds like his is such a great success! He's on his next big adventure! All of my biggest condolences to you all...

January 14, 2007 at 6:51:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm sorry I didn't arrive her early enough to add my voice to your bloggity angelic choir. What an incredible life...can only imagine that wherever he is now, he's on to his next great adventure. Hugs to you both.

January 14, 2007 at 6:57:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

may he be at peace-and healing for boho boy and his family.

January 14, 2007 at 7:59:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss, Denise. Leonard has been in my prayers, as have you and C. Will had C's mom to the list.

The only thing we take with us is the love we shared on earth. Sounds like Leonard had a full load for the journey.

January 14, 2007 at 10:29:00 AM PST  
Blogger Unknown said...

Oh, I'm so sorry. Love and peace to Carsten and you and all who were touched intimately by this man. He sounds like someone I wish I could have known. I'm sure he is with you during this difficult time, and I'm sure there is lots of opportunity for adventures where he's off to next.

all my best.


January 14, 2007 at 10:36:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hugs to you and Carsten, and the whole family.

You are in my thoughts,


January 14, 2007 at 11:48:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

oh baby... soooo sorry to hear about the passing of such a wonderful man.

please give a biiig pacific northwest hug-o-goodness to boho boy.

i am also honored you chose to share such sweet stories about him, and your previous entry shows a pic of a man so FULL of life. that's the best way you could remember him... with all his zeal, love and caring for his family...

honored, moved, and yer right.. he's up there now looking down on you.

Bronxbt & mr puddins

January 14, 2007 at 7:50:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

All my love to you two, i'm so sorry to hear that but peace sounds much better than pain, always. Praying for all of you, to have peace in your hearts.
Love you Deni - big hug to C.

I'm here if you need ANYthing friend.


January 14, 2007 at 7:51:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What a blessing to be a part of such a wonderful, adventurous family. I'm so sorry that Carsten has lost his daddy. This is already turning out to be a hard year for the two of you, but your love and spirits are strong and beautiful, full of love. Your father in law sounds like a really magnificent man - I know you all will be celebrating his life in the days to come.

January 14, 2007 at 9:16:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Praying for you and Carsten and the family. He sounds like a wonderful man.

January 14, 2007 at 10:11:00 PM PST  
Blogger Kristine said...

I'm sending great love and sympathy to you and your husband.

January 14, 2007 at 11:16:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Denise, I am so sorry to hear about your father-in-law. He sounds like he was a really amazing, wonderful person. You and Carsten and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

xoxo Andi

January 14, 2007 at 11:21:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Denise,

So very sorry to hear the news. Many prayers for Birgit, Jon-Eric and yourselves. You seem wise beyond your years, follow your heart in dealing with Birgit. She is going to need some help adjusting.

January 15, 2007 at 2:39:00 AM PST  
Blogger Toni M Photography said...

Oh hun,

I am so sorry. I am now in tears, I feel so sad. From reading the previous post and then this one (I've been out of the blog world for a couple of days) I am just wanting to give you both a huge bear and sit with you all for hours. Please give Carsten, Birgit and Jon-Eric my prayers, hugs and love and to you as well. You a very strong woman Denise, Love to you all,

Toni xx

January 15, 2007 at 4:11:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Denise, I am so sorry for you and your families loss. He sounded like an amazing man, and embraced the life that he lived.

You, Carsten and his family will be in my thoughts and continue prayer.

January 15, 2007 at 6:11:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i'm sorry to hear of your loss...

January 15, 2007 at 6:26:00 AM PST  
Blogger maggiegracecreates said...

I have added Boho Boy's family to my prayers. He sounds like a wonderful man and I do hope you can find the peace and grace to bring you all through this.

The photo is beautiful.

Teresa Atkinson

January 15, 2007 at 6:48:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So terribly sorry to hear of Leonard's passing. Your tribute to him is beautiful. He sounds like quite the renaissance man! My thoughts and prayers are with you, Karsten and his family.

January 15, 2007 at 12:31:00 PM PST  
Blogger Amber said...

I'm so sorry for your loss of this man... My thoguhts and prayers are with you as you celebrate his life, and say goodbye.


January 15, 2007 at 12:36:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your and Carsten's loss (and your whole family)...it seems as though he was truly larger than life. You were all blessed to have each other.

I wish I could help somehow, but I am sending you my thoughts and prayers.

January 15, 2007 at 12:51:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss, and thankful that you have such a wonderful family that can support you at a time like this and that you are filled with such great memories which cannot be taken away no matter what...

January 15, 2007 at 1:22:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm sorry for the loss you will all be dealing with. It sounds like the family is close and will rally 'round one another. With his colorful history, Leonard will certainly not be forgotten; he'll live on as stories are told and retold.

January 15, 2007 at 1:29:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Godspeed! Boho gal and Boho boy!!! Give your moma a big bear hug for me! xo, Cinda ((((Moma)))

January 15, 2007 at 3:40:00 PM PST  
Blogger christina said...

Hugs & love to you both. What a special man to have known. I get this funny feeling that he and baby boho will be passing each other...him going up, and her coming down... does that make any sense?

January 15, 2007 at 5:25:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very much enjoyed my walk through your world...as a poet, I found it both enriching and enlightening.

Thank you...

January 16, 2007 at 12:48:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Denise, I had tears in my eyes when I read your post.
I'm so sorry to hear about your and Carsten's loss. Leonard sounded like such an amazing person.. I am glad you went out to celebrate his life.
I am going to light a candle for him now.. and I will keep you all in my thoughts.

Hugs to you, xo, luzie

January 16, 2007 at 2:39:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hugs, hugs, and more hugs.

January 16, 2007 at 6:22:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


I have been out of town and disconnected from the bloggie world for a few days and was saddened to see your two latest posts.

Leonard sounds like a truly gifted and amazing man and what a life to celebrate! Those pictures you posted are incredible. You can tell he is a true artist.

How lucky you are to have had someone so wonderful in your life, to share and inspire you with his stories.

I hope you and Carsten are doing okay and that both Carsten and Birgit are getting filled up on your love. My thoughts are with you all giving you big warm hugs.

January 16, 2007 at 9:52:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i'm so sorry to hear about Leonard. i hope you and your family can find joy in sharing your fond memories of him.

January 16, 2007 at 11:33:00 AM PST  
Blogger la vie en rose said...

sweetie girl, i'm so behind on blog reading and i had no idea what was going on in your life. you and carsten are in my thoughts. remember how much i love you!

January 17, 2007 at 8:49:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

sending you and your husband healing hugs xxx

January 17, 2007 at 12:05:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry to hear about this...but what you wrote is beautiful...Makes me hope that by the end of me earthly life I can say I've truly lived...


January 17, 2007 at 4:59:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Feeling for you.

January 17, 2007 at 10:51:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Deni, darling I am sorry that Carsten has lost his Dad from this realm... but I am sure he will be much happier in his new environ.. as you suggest partying with his friends *grin* what a great thought hey!!

So sweet love... I hope you and hubs continue to celebrate the life of Leonard (what a COOL name) and shed a tear or two if so inclined.

My thoughts are with you and Carsten.

(hugs) and love

January 18, 2007 at 3:09:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello you...

Just checking in and sending you and your family my love...

January 18, 2007 at 10:26:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i am just now seeing this...i will keep your family in my prayers and heart.

thank you for sharing leanard's wonderful story with us.

big huggies to you and yours, girlie.

January 21, 2007 at 11:44:00 AM PST  
Blogger JC said...

I just now saw this, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Leonard sounded like a special person, and it sounds like he left you all with some great memories. Peace.

January 30, 2007 at 11:48:00 AM PST  
Blogger NiteSkyGirl said...

I wierdly came upon this and went ..hay it's about Mr Kroon!!


Mr Kroon was really nice !
I liked him alot , his words to me always were ..

' thare ya go Juday ! ' I still here that sometimes !! He was interesting to talk to.

I'm Judi .... Cairenn's widdle sister.

November 24, 2008 at 1:56:00 PM PST  

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