Tuesday, January 30

self portrait challenge ~ resolutions

taken by boho boy, canon digital rebel xt

i'm a little worry flower and i would really love to learn how to tone it down this year. this awareness of my blossoming worry flower within always helps me to recognize it in the moment and i try to work through it with breathing and positive thoughts. i mean, i don't just worry about myself, i worry about my loved ones, my tribe, our precious mother earth, our government, etc.

don't get me wrong. i am not sitting curled up on my couch in constant worry of all around me. i usually go about my days in somewhat of a calm but this is when i internalize a lot and it manifests itself in my tight knotted shoulders. i am learning to transform my worry into trust or just realizing that worry doesn't help an issue as much action does.

meditation and yoga does help and perhaps writing down my worries and then transforming those worries to something positive on paper.

sharing it all here is a start.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

I certainly join you in the worry flower garden, I spend a lot of time there myself. No one notices on the outside the turbulence on the inside. thanks for sharing, as always....


January 30, 2007 at 10:01:00 AM PST  
Blogger Lianne said...

Ah you sweet beautiful thing.... I understand the worry part. I don't know if it is that I have grown out of it, or that I have come to realize that worry manifests what we worry about. But I send angels to help carry the worry away.

January 30, 2007 at 11:03:00 AM PST  
Blogger Suzie Ridler said...

The title of this resolution is so evocative and emotional. A wonderful honest photograph. I hope your sensitive soul finds peace and lets that flower smile soon.

January 30, 2007 at 11:06:00 AM PST  
Blogger daisies said...

such a beautiful photo ... i love that you try and turn your worries into the positive, such a wonderful way of letting it out ...

January 30, 2007 at 11:26:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I wrote a somewhat similair SPC post. Trying to worry less. To breathe and have faith that all will be okay.

Sharing it in this blogosphere is indeed a start and often helps.

Hugs and kisses,


January 30, 2007 at 11:35:00 AM PST  
Blogger JC said...

Beautiful photo!

I think you're onto something with the sharing thing, and also about writing things down. I think these can help you to let go of some of the worries.

January 30, 2007 at 11:41:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Can it be, that having the same birthday makes for similarities? I worry and fret and then I worry some more. I've figured out (sort of) ways to relax but it doesn't always work out and then needs to be worked out of my shoulders and in between the shoulder blades.

At the end of the day you're right, worrying about it all doesn't make anything better, perhaps action really does. Nice SPC.

January 30, 2007 at 11:47:00 AM PST  
Blogger LiteraryGirl said...

I have had a rough week, and it has led me to having a lot of worry and anxiety. I hate feeling this way...I relate to your words today. I recognize that the root of it for me is not being in control, and that is frightening sometimes.

January 30, 2007 at 11:48:00 AM PST  
Blogger Georgia said...

You are perhaps the MOST beautiful worry flower i have ever seen :)

Loving you!!!


January 30, 2007 at 11:55:00 AM PST  
Blogger goatman said...

Nice blog, and pictures.
I've found that replacing worry with action is the best way to subdue that particular beast: Write letters to government reps., write letters to family and friends, contibute to worthy causes, donate time at the nursing home reading to someone. Worry is just misdirected caring and needs to be responded to.
Just a quick thought after a quick visit.

January 30, 2007 at 12:40:00 PM PST  
Blogger Jaime said...

Hello. I just wanted to take a minute and introduce myself as a fellow worrier. I love your phrase "worry flower." It has such nicer connotations than worrywart!

Love the blog. Your pictures are beautiful.

Thanks for sharing,

January 30, 2007 at 12:45:00 PM PST  
Blogger Regina said...

I was just going to say the same thing as Jaime! Worry flower has such a nicer connotation to it, but after all is said and done, we are still worry flowers.
I find that when you write things down, it can transform them into something not quite as scary... like somehow putting your thoughts into words makes them tangible and when things are tangible, you can change them...
Having said all that- I think worry is a natural state of being for most of us and its just a matter of how we cope day to day with those worries...
I think you are going in the right direction, Denise...

January 30, 2007 at 1:19:00 PM PST  
Blogger Fran said...

I used to have this saying on a piece of paper tacked to my wall. I can't for the life of me remember who it is by or where I got it.
" To worry is like shoveling smoke."

January 30, 2007 at 1:40:00 PM PST  
Blogger la vie en rose said...

look at those lips!!! oh my goodness...i'm swooning... i need a big fat smack from 'em!

January 30, 2007 at 2:25:00 PM PST  
Blogger luzie said...

What an expressive picture. You are so beautiful.

I can relate to your resolution very well. I tend to worry secretly and catastrophically, but sharing does help a lot.


January 30, 2007 at 3:58:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i move i and out of that place and out is definately much easier on the soul

January 30, 2007 at 4:57:00 PM PST  
Blogger Colorsonmymind said...

You look so gorgeous here beautiful one.

I hate to think of you worrying.

Love you
toe to toe

January 30, 2007 at 5:48:00 PM PST  
Blogger Deb R said...

Good resolution and (as always!) a really beautiful photo!

January 30, 2007 at 8:30:00 PM PST  
Blogger madelyn said...

beautiful resolution -
i am only half myself without
a means of expression -
so i understand the importance
of putting it down on paper:)

lovely photo!

January 30, 2007 at 9:25:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh honey, how I understand! We definitely need to ease up on this trait of ours, as it will be better for our souls.

Thinking of you sweet friend....

Love you

January 30, 2007 at 10:29:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Journalling is wonderful for the soul...gets out all the emotions that cause those horrible knots, I get them too! Beautiful, beautiful photo.

January 30, 2007 at 11:21:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it might not help with the worrying but i hope you know that through your beautiful photos, lovely words and willingness to share you have, i'm sure, eased other people's worries.. even if it is only for the moment that they're taking in whatever dose of beauty and.or wisdom you've cooked up that day.

there are lots of things about our wonderful, troubled planet to be concerned about but there's also lots of things that can be done. witnessing the deep care that you and your blogging friends all over the world have for each other fills me with joy and hope!

take care,

January 31, 2007 at 1:25:00 AM PST  
Blogger Left-handed Trees... said...

Amazing photo here today, the light and mood, gorgeous--taken by boho boy, too! What a talented family you are...

January 31, 2007 at 4:49:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi boho--i've only been following your blog for a week or so, and already, checking in has become a part of my daily routine. i want to thank you for your honesty--i think this quality, above all others, is what draws people to your creations( your site, photography and jewelry)...it is both healing and comforting to know that there are others working their way through similar circumstances, and still, somehow, embracing life's challenges with braveness and tenderness. i often find inspiration in books, and so i want to reccommend a few good ones to you --you may have these already, but just in case--HEALING MANTRAS by: thomas ashley-farrand, CREATIVE VISUALIZATION by; shakti gawain, YOUR MYTHIC JOURNEY by: sam keen, and THE SEED HANDBOOK by: lynne franks. take good care, NAMASTE--krista

January 31, 2007 at 10:47:00 AM PST  
Blogger Alessandra Cave said...

Boho, What i want to know is: How can you always look so gorgeous? Hmmm... I know... It's the beauty inside of you that shines! :)

January 31, 2007 at 11:56:00 AM PST  
Blogger Frida World said...

Lovely Boho, Thank you for your encouragement to me to breathe, meditate and release when I emailed about my anxiety the other day.
In return I offer you the two things I'm learning - firstly that along with releaseing (and like you I find breathing and writing are wonderful tools for release) I find that if I can find one small way to act it helps me a lot.
Yesterday my wonderful Afghan colleague and I were returning from an appointment with the National Security Prosecutor about the ongoing (and now illegal) detention of eight people. It was the end of a long, hard day and I asked him if he was weary. He said "I get tired when I feel we are not achieving anything, when I can see that we have moved things even one centimetre, for even one person, I have the energy to keep going". He put my own experience into perfect words.
By sharing your beautifut thoughts and insight here you are moving things many centimetres for many people.

January 31, 2007 at 9:35:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

How BIG is your heart?

That is so true... worry doesn't help at all I guess...

Writing down your thoughts and feelings is a great option when we can't do anything else, that helps me ALOT all the time.

love to you :)
so much!!

February 1, 2007 at 10:49:00 AM PST  
Blogger Kathleen said...

excellent resolution.


i need to learn from this post.

February 1, 2007 at 5:21:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have been reading for several months but have for some reason had difficulty posting comments. I too am your age and have been trying to conceive for almost a year and a half now. I find your words very comforting and truly appreciate your honesty in your journal. Thanks for putting your words and thoughts out there and continuing to inspire us all. I am struggling with the worry issue myself...

February 2, 2007 at 3:35:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Darlene's little sister: I don't know you yet but I already love you. I see so much of Darlene in your beautiful pictures, and in your touching words. I'm an older grandma and found over the years that my worry has deminished because of something I learned. I can't live in the "If Only.... and I can't live in the "What If's"...I had to learn to live in the "NOW". A dear friend and songwriter of mine but the thought in a song like this. "Yesterday is history, tomorrow's still a mystery, today is the "present" a gift God gave to me." Your are a precious and sensitive woman. Thank you for sharing your journey with me.
Wanda aka Lovely

February 2, 2007 at 9:27:00 AM PST  
Blogger Angela Marie said...

I am proud of you Denise. And I also believe that you are a precious, sensitive and very caring woman. It is hard finding a balance when you love and care this deeply.

You are a sweetie and the prettiest worry flower I have ever seen.

February 2, 2007 at 9:30:00 PM PST  
Blogger M said...

I can totally totally relate - and I too am trying to learn how to trust and let it go. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone.

February 3, 2007 at 10:20:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i saw this jewelry and thought of you. it looks ancient and magical!

good luck on your journey~


February 3, 2007 at 10:58:00 AM PST  
Blogger meghan said...

Oh baby, ME TOO. I am such a fret-er. Sometimes when I get OVERwhelmed I need to do something to release the energy rather than be serene about it. mediation only goes so far and then you have to GET. IT. OUT. When I hit maximum capacity I go for a hard walk or kick box or work out in some way. When I had an ulcer my doctor said I needed to SWEAT at least once a day to release the worry I was holding in my digestive system. He said that meditation and writing was good (as that's what I told him I was doing as stress relief) but that sometimes I needed a more physical release. It was great advice (I don't always follow it until I NEED it and remember) and I realized that sometimes the body needs to be used more than the brain does!

I love you - and worry about you too!! xo

February 3, 2007 at 12:49:00 PM PST  
Blogger ananda : sanskrit for bliss said...

what a beautiful photograph. i worry so much too, but at least we feel and are able to share that.

February 5, 2007 at 7:27:00 AM PST  
Blogger Miss Robyn said...

I have to be the world's biggest worrier - I tend to call myself a worry wart - but I like worry flower alot better!
love this post! it is good to know I am not the only worrier, that I am perfectly normal :)

February 6, 2007 at 2:11:00 PM PST  

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