Wednesday, September 3

still and rooted*

me feeling grounded, canon digital rebel xti

Recently, I became aware, through the gentle help of a life coach, how much our body speaks to us and is a source of clues into how we are feeling about something. Meaning...when she asked me to share how I felt about certain issues going on in my life, she also asked me what my body was doing in that moment while I was sharing. I found, that when I spoke about things I feel peaceful about, my body was relaxed and my arms/palms in an open position. When I spoke about things that are surrounded in fear and anxiety, my body felt tight and closed off, arms folded against my stomach or chest. When I spoke about things I feel certain about, even if I was sitting, I would move my legs to where my feet were planted on the ground...feeling grounded and warrior-like. This was all subconscious until she put my awareness there, after the fact.

This awareness created a connectedness I haven't felt within my body in a while. It helped me to trust again in my inner voice when faced with decisions that are laced with confusion. I felt like in those moments, that voice was speaking to me through my body language.

Within all those moments, it was the awareness of me feeling grounded in parts of my life that I am wanting to revel in. When so many things feel whirly and tossed around for me right now, it feels so good to know there are places that are still and rooted.


Blogger mccabe said...

weird....i JUST came from lifecoaching and i did the same thing. my fear tends to be around my heart-all heavy and panicky when certain subjects come up. and at the same time it was easy for me to find a calm, grounded space. (i just forget about it when i have an anxiety attack)

funny how we don't realize our bodies doing certain things. (at least i don't...my hands usually cover my face when i panic, and fall to my hips when relaxed)

another cool thing we went over today is that you don't have to believe or hope all the time for your body to do what you want it to do. your body just heals, with your help or not. life is just easier when you are gentle with yourself.

interesting stuff!
glad you have a good coach.
hope it is bringing much joy and miracles!

mac xx

September 3, 2008 at 12:32:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Admin said...

I love this.

Naturopaths and therapists carefully watch the movements and body language of their clients.

Sometimes they have a sympathetic response as well...tensing when the client tenses, and relaxing when they relax.

September 3, 2008 at 1:17:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Lisa said...

I love how you write about paying attention to your entire being, not just the part currently barking the loudest.

September 3, 2008 at 2:05:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Stacy said...

one of the kajillion things i love about you is how in touch you are with listening to your body and your inner voice.

i bet now because of your coaching session you will really be paying attention to your body language when certain issues arise...

what a gift.

thank you for sharing, i know i will be paying attention to my own body language about certain conflicts i am having as well.

love YOU

September 3, 2008 at 4:35:00 PM PDT  
Blogger kelly barton art + design said...

as always your posts fill me.
see you soon! oh i am so excited!


September 3, 2008 at 5:55:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

oh, denise, thank you for this.

as part of active listening workshops, i (re) learned that if one sits with their arms crossed, a person will feel afraid of sharing. it's all about body language....and i find that in times of stress, i want to wall, close up my heart chakra, protect protect....so i make a concious effort to breathe and say that i am okay, and i uncross my arms and turn towards the person and watch the experience blossom...

this is such a calming space for me (and others) to come to. you seem to be writing what i am thinking...thank you. not for trying to make this space anything but a true home for you.


September 3, 2008 at 6:46:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

mmm, good food for thought. thank you.

i tend to be an arm crosser when i'm having certain types of interactions. i'm more aware of it than i used to be but it's still how my body naturally responds. my yoga teacher was taking about the base chakra and being grounded in class last night. your post reminded me to keep reflecting on her words.

take care.

September 3, 2008 at 9:13:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

can't tell you how much i needed to learn this .
thank you for teaching me this yesterday .
our conversation changed me .
much love ...

September 3, 2008 at 11:08:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i've been a lurker of your blog for a while now and really enjoy your insight. have you ever considered trying accupunture to help get pregnant?

hope this finds you having a wonderful day!


September 5, 2008 at 5:01:00 AM PDT  
Blogger boho girl said...

hi tamara,
thank you for your kind words.

yes, we tried acupuncture for 1.5 years. there is not much we haven't tried in regards to eastern/holistic/homeopathic. ; )


September 5, 2008 at 5:05:00 AM PDT  
Blogger me-nikk said...

Hi Denise,

Long time no comment, but I'm still out here supporting, loving you, sending you such positive thoughts and of course... reading.

I just recently started seeing a life coach myself. I think that I was actually turned onto the idea by you or one of your posse way back when. I think someone linked to someone that was a life coach and there is where I discovered what I truly needed to move forward in my own life. Thank you!

My purpose for this comment though is to ask if you are willing to go into more depth as to why you're going to coaching and how that process has been going for you.

I'm just curious as always. :)



September 6, 2008 at 12:31:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Eileen W. said...

I sometimes forget my mind- body connection-- that is, until recently. My dad had a heart attack, my sister and I were arguing and my stomach was a MESS. Your coach is so right and I am glad you are finding your body's awareness.

September 7, 2008 at 8:29:00 AM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

BHG: Great post....

September 18, 2008 at 11:05:00 PM PDT  

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