Monday, October 27

fairy godmother*

jen gray, canon digital rebel xti

We have chosen a Fairy Godmother for our son.

Well, perhaps he had chosen her first and then whispered it into our ears.
Or we had all chosen one another when we were angels, before we got here.
One big fairy family coming into being. ; )

When we thought about who we wanted to be the godmother to our son, my dear friend Jen immediately came to mind. It felt like a powerfully spiritual moment. I saw a very vivid image of her laying on her back with our son in the grass, looking up at the stars, while he shared with her some stuff going on in his heart. I saw laughter and teasing and a huge grassy safety net. My heart felt all warm and I felt tingly (although she does that to me every time...). I saw it so clearly and so did Boho Boy.

Then we asked her. Like we were getting down on our knees and asking her to marry us. She got really quiet and took a deep breath and then...she said yes! And she said it with tears and nearly inaudible words. We cried. We all felt it. She felt him too. She knew it was meant to be...this connection.

Jen and I had very similar backgrounds as children and young adults and now we are living such a parallel lifestyle. When we talk, its always full of "me too, me too!" We both have an equally beautiful relationship with the men in our life. She's like my twin sister, although she's much taller and thinner and blonder and has a much better memory for songs. She also likes to dress up in costumes and make videos and paint and can make me laugh so hard that I pee my pants. I think she is amazing at improv and dresses like a rock star. She loves her peeps like a fierce lion and holds them in her arms like a gentle lamb. Everyone who meets Jen falls madly insanely in love with her. She has a billion and more crushes on her all around the world and yet is so humble it makes you crush on her even more.

I could write a book about the beautiful person that she is and perhaps someday I will. Or perhaps my son will. Or perhaps we'll all sit around on that grass and write it together. How she has scooped Boho Boy and I up so many times on this journey to our son and held our hands and stroked our hair and played soothing love songs or made us laugh through our tears. And now she opens up her arms to do that for him too.

Our boy is going to have so many strong, powerful, gentle, wide openly loving, creative women in his life. My tribe is already circling him and lately with all of us going through emotionally shifting times...it is him that we can all talk about with pure joy. He's the connector to happiness for all of us. What a gift he already is.

And what a gift Jen, his outrageously cool Fairy Godmother, will be in his life. She'll bring the concept back into fashion like Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty did.

me & jen at squam, taken by jonatha brooke, september 2008


Blogger pERiWinKle said...

Yes! She will literally be the 'fairy godmother'! Oh! this is all so exciting! Things and details you've thought about for years...and then when it all happens...it's just so right...and perfect...and absolutely M A G I C A L ! xx

October 27, 2008 at 11:37:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Sleepandhersisters said...

A fairy godmother is a special, special person to have in your life... I have one and when I write to her I still write "To my Fairy Godmother" on the envelope.

It sounds like your friend Jen will be just perfect to fill those very important shoes.

October 28, 2008 at 2:00:00 AM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

O jen seems like a magical girl!

my son calls his fairy godmother...fairy!
it is so precious and he will never stop becasue that is the only name he has ever known for her.

she is not my 2nd son's fairy but he too calls her that.

such a nice tradition!

i am so happy for you denise, so very happy...

October 28, 2008 at 4:10:00 AM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Holy shit. With you as this baby's mother, and Jen as his fairy godmother, he is DESTINED TO DO GREAT THINGS.

I'm so happy for all of you. There are such amazing things ahead.

October 28, 2008 at 5:47:00 AM PDT  
Blogger bee said...

this just makes me happier. :)

she is just the perfect choice....everything is falling into place, and so fast....

inspirational. all my love, denise.

October 28, 2008 at 6:40:00 AM PDT  
Blogger Kristin Zecchinelli said...

oh so much love! i have to say i have never met jen but i too have a crush on her from afar, her silliness, her creativity, her hilarity, and all i know this from is photos and posts. so yes a more than perfect choice. how much fun and spirit she will bring our son. hugs.

October 28, 2008 at 7:04:00 AM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I knew this baby was already the luckiest spirit in the world to have you and boho boy as parents but to have the LUMINOUS STAR of Jen Gray in his life as his fairy godmother-- well, oh my oh my-- he is BLESSED blessed BLESSED!

as well he should be, most precious one--


October 28, 2008 at 7:27:00 AM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

is it possible to cry any more than i already have?

im the one who is honored.
im the one who is lucky and so humbled and
bursting with ridiculous joy...

to have you guys as parents ~ this little one has exquisite taste, a very wise soul, and a heart that requires the best kind of love...

love you all so much...

October 28, 2008 at 8:28:00 AM PDT  
Blogger Jamie said...

Can Jen be my fairy godmother too?! :) She sounds beautiful and little boho baby is double blessed.

October 28, 2008 at 8:36:00 AM PDT  
Blogger Eileen W. said...

She sounds like the P-E-R-F-E-C-T fairy godmother for your son!! Congratulations to you all! xoxo

October 28, 2008 at 8:51:00 AM PDT  
Blogger Melody said...

how fun for your little one to have a fairy godmother! congrats to you!

October 28, 2008 at 9:21:00 AM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When you have a shining star as the mom and a superstar as the godmother it deepens and confirms the fact that goodness does thread the Universe. Boho Baby Boy (BBB) what a treasure he is and what treasure awaits him.

Love to you and Jen,

October 28, 2008 at 10:07:00 AM PDT  
Blogger cally said...

you're wonderful.

I've been looking for your email, but to no avail. I hate to leave info like this in a comment and take away from your beautiful writing, and jen, but Your name was drawn for the second prize! I know, stop screaming, I'm excited too. It's not the bags, but it's cute anyways.

Could you email me with your address?


October 28, 2008 at 11:13:00 AM PDT  
Blogger Jennifer/The Word Cellar said...

I love that you and Jen are bringing the Fairy Godmother back into fashion. I've long thought that if I have a child I'd like him/her to have one of those!

October 28, 2008 at 11:40:00 AM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

HOORAY! I'm jealous. I wish Jen was my Fairy godmother <3. I'm SOOOOOO happy for all of you. That is going to be ONE LOVED LITTLE BOY!! Just don't name him after fruit or a musical instrument or name him "string" or something dumb ok? Don't go all "Hollyweird". Haha.. HOORAY!!!

October 28, 2008 at 12:41:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Swirly said...

So perfect. Such a wonderful, beautiful connection they will have.

October 28, 2008 at 3:39:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Wendy said...

i can't think of a better godmother than jen. what a lucky boy! i'm very excited to hear this news...i feel like i've been waiting right along with you...for so long...silently.

wendy aka satchel's mama

October 28, 2008 at 4:59:00 PM PDT  
Blogger melissa said...

what a lucky, lucky boy. you and boho boy as parents and jen as fairy godmother...it doesn't get any better than that! oh and he's going to have a bunch of aunties lovin' on him too! xoxo

October 28, 2008 at 7:05:00 PM PDT  
Blogger kelly barton art + design said...

mmm....a perfect choice.
i think we would all choose miss
jen as our fairy godmother if we could.

happy wednesday!

October 29, 2008 at 3:18:00 AM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Adoption is such a beautiful thing. My husband & I have also adopted a baby. It truly is an amazing experience & the roller-coaster of emotions can be extreme. Feel free to email me if I can help with that ride!

October 29, 2008 at 5:00:00 AM PDT  
Blogger Jackie said...

Hi Boho Girl,

I stumbled across your profile and I am so wonderfully happy for you and your husband! My husband and I were blessed with a newborn baby boy through adoption in Aug 2007. He is now almost 15 months old and we have been living the most amazing wonderful life since the day he was placed in our arms! I read your blog and it brought me to tears, I know exactly what you are going through, exactly how you are feeling. Our call came 4 weeks before our birth mom was due,the waiting was hard, but have faith and but don't worry, your son will be with you very very soon and when you are holding him in your arms, you will forget all about how that. God Bless!

October 29, 2008 at 5:02:00 AM PDT  
Blogger jin said...

This just gets more and more beautiful! Soooo very happy and excited for you all! Sending blessings blessings blessings...to all the bohos and the beautiful fairygodmother xxxxx

October 29, 2008 at 6:22:00 AM PDT  
Blogger Stacy said...

this makes me all melty...

loving you & jen
and boho baby boy

such a gift.


October 29, 2008 at 10:16:00 AM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I can't read your blog at work anymore. Tears of Joy that there aren't enough tissues for. Blessings and prayers for you and Boho Boy, K and T and "the luckiest boy" with the fairy Godmother of them all!

Enjoy him blissfully. My Micah is turning 4 this February...the years pass in an instant. Soak up every single one!

Amy in KS

October 29, 2008 at 1:08:00 PM PDT  
Blogger christianne said...

Okay, this post totally brought tears to my eyes.

October 29, 2008 at 2:38:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What is better than this? Nothing! This is just the best news. This wee boy is so lucky. The gifts that you and Boho boy will bestow beyond measure beginning with the perfect fairy godmother.

October 29, 2008 at 3:32:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Steph said...

It's all so beautiful. I am happy for you, your husband and the wonderful little boy that chose you both. And oh so happy for Jen too - she gets to spoil you all. :)


October 29, 2008 at 5:29:00 PM PDT  
Blogger jenica said...

the perfect combo. can i have jen as my fairy godmother?


October 29, 2008 at 6:27:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Terri Edwards said...

as a brand new adoptive mommy to our angelic 12-week-old sofia grace, i wish you nothing but sweet and happy years with your little boy.

touching him for the first time will change your soul.

terri in boston

October 29, 2008 at 6:39:00 PM PDT  
Blogger jbrooke said...

It's true, Jen is the absolute definition of fantasy fairy godmother. oh JOY!
me too, me too!


October 30, 2008 at 8:20:00 AM PDT  
Blogger gem said...

this is simply divine...
big love to you & fairy godmother, jen gray*

October 30, 2008 at 12:41:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am WOWED! I've been reading your blog for just over a year - and oh my gosh, I love your portraits of artists - and I logged on today to read about an expected Boy-Babe! Wowie, wow wow wow! Deepest congratulations! Can't wait to see the precious face! Peace, Erika Rae

October 31, 2008 at 2:14:00 PM PDT  
Blogger jen lemen said...

i can't think of a better person--yay baby boho to have jen and jen to have baby boho. this is the beginnings of a very powerful village.

October 31, 2008 at 5:33:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Unknown said...

I have very few regrets in my life...but if I had the chance to start all over knowing what I know now, I must admit that there are a few choices that I'd make sure I made the second time around...and if I was coming back in to the world again one of my 'do over' choices would be to have Jen be my fairy godmother (if she for sure wouldn't agree to be my mom!)

well done you two ... and clearly this is a wise, discerning soul about to come into your lives!

(an old friend of Jen's)

November 3, 2008 at 5:12:00 AM PST  

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