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Monday, November 3

a mountainous and unexplored region of the heart*


kirsten at squam, canon digital rebex xti

"Once you get over the fear it's a cinch, " she said.
And then she leaped into a mountainous and unexplored
region of her heart.

We arrive yesterday early evening and spent a few hours with K until we all got tired and needed to catch up on some much needed rest, knowing we won't get much rest soon! She's doing well under the circumstances but is uncomfortable. Her contractions slowed down and the doctor suggested she go home and get rest and monitor them, knowing we'd be here with her to take her right in when they got worse again. I think they just want her moving around to get this going. So, today we are talking her on a walk. Curious if any of you have any tips to get the labor going. Healthy, safe ones, that is.

They all feel it should be any day now and very soon. So glad we are here and not waiting at home because as long as it took us to fly and drive here, we would surely miss the birth.

She told us last night she wants to try elle~naturelle, no meds and they have a birthing tub in the delivery room. We love the hospital. Its a brand new one (only a few months old) and looks like a resort. They even have a garden path for pregnant women to walk...with a water fall. We are so impressed! The doctor and nurses are well aware of the adoption and being wonderful and sensitive about it. This whole process is blowing me away.

A sweet friend sent me some birthing visualizations to use while K is contracting during the real deal. This morning I spent time memorizing them while drinking my yerba mate. This all feels so surreal.

I feel like a protective momma bear with K and want to make sure she has all she needs. I just adore her to the core. I feel our son getting closer. We laid in bed last night knowing he will be between us soon and I put my hand there to whisper a prayer and tell him I love him and cannot wait to hold him close to me...skin to skin.

As Kirsten's mantra above says, I am indeed venturing into a region of my heart that has been unexplored. Discovering parts of my capacity to love that I didn't realize existed. Love for K, love for this baby, love for my husband and the journey of adoption.

We will keep you updated. Like I said, we are all joking around about him coming on election day. In fact,we might just borrow Obama's mantra during the birth..."Yes We Can!!!!!!". hee hee.

More soon.

{any tips on helping her through the birth would be wonderful. K and i were never able to take birthing classes together. i've done some research but i imagine many of you have some earth momma tips i haven't heard of yet...thank you from the bohos and K & T}

67 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

howdy happy Momma to be!
Your life is about to change in a way you can never imagine. It will be WONDERFUL. The hardest thing to prepare for is the lack of sleep!
Labor: Long walks, warm baths, squatting (repeated), drinking lots of water, activy (not rest) will all help to speed thigns along-as well as, K having sex. THe semen softens the cervix and helps! All this is assuming the little man is actually ready! As well as....I know this sounds so cliche, but my husband and I went out for Thai food (I had spicey soup) the day of my 38 week apppt when I was not even dialted at all and my wter broke at the resturant! So....I swear the spicey food thing works! Best of luck! this is all so perfect! Does this little boho baby have a name? Your updates are great....keep them coming. Doucment the whole birth experiance, you wil be happy you did! Prayers and well wishes from Bsoton MA! xoxo
Jeanninedunne@hotmail.com

Go Obama!

November 3, 2008 at 9:33:00 AM PST  
Blogger kristen said...

i can't even breathe until tomorrow is over, i'm so nervous!

but, i'm SO excited for you and your family. my only tips to induce labor are needle tips, hee-hee. (=

in all serious, acupuncture is great for inducing labor, safe too. true story, i just now got home from my neighbor's house; she's very ready to have her baby and i gave her acupuncture, leaving her with heavier contractions!!

acupressure works too, email me if you'd like suggestions. xo

November 3, 2008 at 9:45:00 AM PST  
Blogger Georgia said...

Have K try curb walking. You walk with one foot up on the side walk and one down in the street... make sure to switch sides that are up on the side walk. The uneven walking is a huge help. She can also try walking up and down a flight of stairs with her feet all the way spread out to the walls... or at least a couple feet apart. The curb walking totally did it for me every time.

There are acupressure points you can hold that can encourage her labor... or she can get a pedicure... the foot massage would get most of those points and could help move things along too :)

And HOORAY! I did all three of my babies natural in the water. And that is SO the way to go, a birthing tub ROCKS! What a cool experience.

I am so excited for you guys!!!!

xoxoxoxo

November 3, 2008 at 9:50:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To the Bohos (all Three!), K and T,
Soak it all up. Babies are the validation that the universe is wondrous and truly divine.
I have followed your journey...wept, laughed, and lately, keep saying, "Hip,hip hurray!"
Love and peace to you and yours. I'll be praying for a safe delivery for everyone.

Go Obama!!

Amy in Kansas
amydcoyne@yahoo.com

November 3, 2008 at 10:03:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Jennifer said...

Denise-

My birth was all natural. To get labor going I did the following SAFE things:
Spicy Indian Curry Dinner
Long walk
Inhaling jasmine essential oil (fabulous!!)
Drank wee bit of castor oil (yuck!.. works!)
and the real foolproof way.....ummm.. sex. or just the female aspect ( wink, wink) ;).. Didn't know if I could say the "O" word on the comments :0 but it raelly works. I went overkill here for my labor but I was having lots of contactions on and off and lots of running to the hospital so I took matters into my own hands! I could not wait.

I am a childbirth educator and lactation educator so if you need more advice.. email me at:
foxfamily97 at gmail dot com.

Good luck!!! Let me know. I will be thinking of you... won't be long now!!!

Be sure to email me as I can give you some natural ideas for drying up her milk easily and naturally safe and effective. This is important.

Cheers!
~Jennifer

November 3, 2008 at 10:16:00 AM PST  
Blogger pERiWinKle said...

Sweet Mama & Papa,
Isn't adoption all magical? and scary?! and surreal?!! It all feels so not real...but it is there..and it is happening!!!

Right next to do...holding hands...and breathing with you..heehee...xx

November 3, 2008 at 10:28:00 AM PST  
Blogger kristin said...

obvious, s e x , but that said, my doc always encouraged raspberry tea, primrose oil capsules, and yes walk walk walk, massaging the pressure pints in the foot and ankle. those are really supposed to be sensitive to contractions.

November 3, 2008 at 10:37:00 AM PST  
Blogger AnnaC said...

how wonderfully exciting!!! ENJOY...

November 3, 2008 at 10:38:00 AM PST  
Anonymous lindsey said...

denise, this post put happy tears in my eyes. i can't wait for you and your husband to have that feeling you've waited so long for.

ps: how FUN would it be for him to be born on election day? especially if it all goes as we hope it will. maybe his middle name will be barack? ;)

many, many joyful moments ahead for you!

November 3, 2008 at 10:39:00 AM PST  
Blogger Kristine said...

I don't have any additional suggestions on how to start labor, but I just wanted to say how happy I am for you and Boho Boy. I've been reading your blog for some time now and have been rooting for you on your baby journey. I have three little ones--a 4 1/2-year-old girl and twin 3-month-old girls--and it's definitely a journey worth traveling. You and your husband have such beautiful souls and will surely be loving, tender parents to your new little one. Can't to hear that he's in your arms.

November 3, 2008 at 10:46:00 AM PST  
Blogger Karen Maezen Miller said...

My only non-advice: it happens by itself, and not in any way expected. We open when we are open to life unfolding. You are all in good hands!

November 3, 2008 at 11:10:00 AM PST  
Anonymous lapagefrancaise said...

Having followed your journey, mostly silently, for the past year or so, I feel my heart exploding with joy to see your beautiful blessing finally arriving. I wish you all the best as you begin this new, wonderful, journey.

November 3, 2008 at 11:17:00 AM PST  
Anonymous Maike said...

I drank a lot of strong yogi tea with all those ayurvedic spices :) like someone above pointed out an Indian dinner would do best I guess :)

And I climbed a lot of stairs and walked and walked and had a hot bath...

and it worked out. It just took three hours then my lovely daughter was lying in my arms :).

My English is not that good... but we had these little massage balls at the hospital and my Mom gave my a massage at the back. How do you call those balls. It looks like a cactus :)


Love from Germany :)

November 3, 2008 at 11:20:00 AM PST  
Blogger Bohemian Single Mom said...

Well... I took my garbage out, carrying it down a flight of stairs and my water broke.

No meds? Awesome!
If I could say one thing about all-natural...remember there can never be too many ice chips!!!

Good luck!! you're already a mama!

November 3, 2008 at 11:53:00 AM PST  
Anonymous patricia said...

both mine were au naturelle too -- i worked right up til both were born -- literally -- the day labor began with my daughter, i was strawberry picking in the morning, went to work my evening shift (unit secretary, surg/trauma unit) thru contractions (i don't do down time well), saw my nurse-midwife around suppertime, went back to work, my water broke and the nurse's aide wheeled me off the unit to maternity while our housekeeper mopped the floor after me -- molly was born within the hour...6 yrs before, same thing with my boy, worked (as a convent cook in those days) thru labor and had him in the wee hours of the next morning...both born on a saturday (?? -- saturday's child works hard for a living??)...
have fun...however your babe gets here, it's gonna be a wild ride -- savor every sweet morsel of the experience...much love and blessings to you all...

November 3, 2008 at 12:08:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I feel like such a dork being this ecstatic for someone I don't know. I remember all these feelings before my babies came. Pure joy!!!!!

Love
Nashay

November 3, 2008 at 12:13:00 PM PST  
Blogger justagirl said...

I would dearly love to give you some helpful birthing tips, but I had to have caesareans for both of my children as their heads were too big to fit through my pelvis.

I really don't think you can ever be fully prepared for what is about to happen no matter how many times you have been through it before.

thinking of you all and the wee one who is about to be...

November 3, 2008 at 12:13:00 PM PST  
Blogger Moxie said...

So excited for you! Scientifically (for whatever it is worth) the only method proven to induce labor with EVERYONE is rest. Lots of rest. It worked with me after I tried EVERYTHING with my first and was 2 weeks overdue. Once I actually laid down for a few days - voila!

Going natural is such a joy and so much pain. Lots of back massage and comfort. The birthing tub is great on all fours rocking back and forth during labor. She is so lucky to have you there helping her and comforting her. This is so great!!

Candice

November 3, 2008 at 12:57:00 PM PST  
Anonymous stef said...

both of my births were au natural; the first time around my contractions stopped too and my doula at the time recommended nipple stimulation:) it really worked for me. Might want to try that?!! The second time around, everyone told me it would be quick and easier and it was longer and harder. Keep an open mind, know that it will all be the way it is when she's ready and he's ready.

so much love to you sweet soul!

xoxo

November 3, 2008 at 12:58:00 PM PST  
Blogger Lisa said...

Wheeeeeeee!!!! That is all I can say :)
As far as labor...walking, raspberry tea, and if she has a male partner...sex!
As far as helping her through the labor, I found hypnobirthing affirmations to be very helpful and calming. I couldn't find any good ones on YouTube (and it is too late to send you a CD!) but below is an OK example. It might be fun for you and BohoBoy to say these to her and have her repeat them back to you...making you closer to the birth experience:)
I will pray for K and your soon to be family of three!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lahg9Asgxq0

November 3, 2008 at 1:16:00 PM PST  
Blogger rubyslippers said...

Long walks, squats, and sex worked for me! Also, I spent an entire afternoon bouncing on an exercise ball with my headphones on listening to music that I thought the baby would like. I spent this time communicating to him--letting him know that I was ready to go if he was. I went into labor that evening. I also kept telling my "birthing body parts" that they were made to do this--this helped me tremendously to surrender into the process. I birthed at home with no drugs and during contractions I visulized breathing through the center of the sensations as well as visualizing my body opening beyond its physical size to allow the baby to come through. The labor was only 4-5 hours and it was the most amazing experience I've ever been a part of.
Blessings and Love to you All!

November 3, 2008 at 1:16:00 PM PST  
Blogger april said...

I'm waiting with baited breath to see how it all goes!

November 3, 2008 at 1:17:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so so happy for you!
Your peace and excitement just jumps out of the page :)
Sending you all love and prayers.
xo

November 3, 2008 at 1:19:00 PM PST  
Blogger Lisa said...

p.s...I said 'male' partner because the prostaglandin in sperm is what can help induce...not the "O."

November 3, 2008 at 1:19:00 PM PST  
Blogger Vanessa said...

my first birth was a c-section but the following two were au-naturelle and so truly amazing and beautiful... waaay less painful than i expected. i don't have any tips to add to the ones in the comments above (i walked and used a birthing ball and lay on my side for breaks). K will do great, you'll see. everyone is different when it comes to going through childbirth... what i will say is that i found it worked best for me when i delved into myself and ignored everyone else... it got to a point where i just felt i had to switch off to the world. i didn't feel like i needed/wanted coaching/support... that may sound odd but i felt like i needed to do it on my own. i guess what i'm saying is don't be disconcerted if K. seems distant/absent... i remember feeling sad that i was blocking my husband out... but i think he intuitively understood that it was my way of taking control of what was happening. we all came out smiling... and you all will too.

be prepared to fall madly in love with your boy. truly, madly, passionately in love.

Vx

November 3, 2008 at 1:33:00 PM PST  
Blogger Debra W said...

And to add to what everyone else said, there are no "gold stars" for not using medications if needed. I had four C-sections. First one was after 20 hours of labor and lots of back labor, four hours of pushing. Second one was after 13 hours of labor, one hour of pushing. Last two were planned. See how K manages the pain and if she starts screaming for drugs, have the nurses give them to her. Truly, they won't hurt the baby and they will help K to relax if the pain gets too bad.

Best of luck!

hugs,
Debbie

November 3, 2008 at 1:38:00 PM PST  
Blogger Jamie said...

Hi miss d :)
I'm so excited for you!! I think I'm going through some of the same emotions you are....although not quite. :) I just can't wait for you to meet your son. :)
I completely and utterly agree with the acupuncture advice. :) My sister's water broke, contractions started and then stopped over night. She was dead set on not going to a hospital (only wanted to go to a birthing center)so I called my acupunturist and got her in asap. Well.....that certainly got the contractions going enough....her baby girl was delivered only a few hours later in the back seat of our SUV on the way to the birthing center! :)
Good luck!! I'm thinking about you SOOO much!

November 3, 2008 at 1:39:00 PM PST  
Blogger danielle marie said...

two words: eggplant parmigiana
takeout for dinner, full-on labor the next day!

birthing visualizations: sounds wonderfully supportive. help her focus however she needs to--- and ready your hands for some bone-crunching squeezes!

joyful, joyful days!

November 3, 2008 at 1:50:00 PM PST  
Anonymous jennifer said...

Hi Again!

Just to clarify my suugestions and as a childbirth teacher... it is still a common misconception that the sperm helps to bring on contractions , it does indeed help, yes.... but as my ob/ gyn and doula suggested just having orgasm helps to GENTLY bring on contractions/ labor. It's a different result. And besides, sometimes actual sex is the alst thing that you feel like doing this far along. Just to clarify. Tell her to try either way that feels best.. both ways will help.. just slightly differently. Trust me.
~Jennifer

November 3, 2008 at 1:58:00 PM PST  
Blogger Megan said...

I'm soso excited!! I can feel this collective energy all around you ALL today!

While I'm not a certified doula, I'm a massage therapist trained in pregnancy/labor/infant massage, and I've done a few births. These are very helpful:

acupressure point to stimulate contractioins is: 3 fingers width up the inside of the ankle. You will know when you find it. It will be "special" sore and a little soft. Also, I checked my book and just below and towards the back on both sides of the ankle are good spots too. Those will be especially "descriptive" when you find the right spot. :)

And this will NOT make him come if he's not ready (my sister tried really hard! LOL) but if he's ready, it can work.

There is another spot on the rear, just inside from the hip bone, but most women don't feel like that one while they're in labor. :)

Also, the nipple thing is a good one too.

Rubbing the low back in circles over the sacrum, check with her for speed/pressure. This is good to bring down anxiety. Helpful if done with her sitting up (on a ball maybe) and leaning forward with the belly between her legs.

Visualization: Opening like a flower, sinking into the bed, receiving all the love and positive energy that surrounds her.

CAN'T WAIT!!

November 3, 2008 at 2:00:00 PM PST  
Blogger Louise said...

SO SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!
Love and HUGS!!

November 3, 2008 at 2:18:00 PM PST  
Blogger The Accidental Blogger said...

to second what has already been written, the only thing that my doctor assured me was (1) safe and (2) effective was sex. it didn't work for us, and i was ultimately induced. but it has worked for others.
as for the labor, i suppose i am not the best source: i pushed for 15 minutes -- 5 pushed. no tearing, not stitches. but i also had an epidural, which made it painless. however, despite the epi, i do think that all one can really do is send her breath to the spot where she feels your son. tell her to send him her breath and to push behind him with it. this will send the pushing energy to the right place and help her identify, isolate the right muscles. that is what i was thinking the whole time -- the whole, very quick, very easy time. she has had other children, so i bet she can do this easily. well, i hope. plus, he is early and therefore a little small, which also helps. ruby was only 6 pounds, and that certainly made the delivery less traumatic physically for me. i felt great within hours afterwards.
high five to your husband for me. as always, blessings all around. -- renee

November 3, 2008 at 2:28:00 PM PST  
Blogger Alisa said...

Just thinking of you and your family. This is so exciting....

November 3, 2008 at 2:39:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Spicy food worked for me too! Oh, and a lot of it. I usually only ate one of the spicy thai burritos, but the night before I went into labor, I ate the whole darn thing. Maybe my tummy was so full, that the little girl was feeling cramped. I am SO excited for you! Wishing you joy!

November 3, 2008 at 2:40:00 PM PST  
Blogger Schmoops said...

i have no advice, but just wanted to send some love.

if you think your heart is bursting wide open now and exploring new territory... well... just wait, angel.

so happy you are all there, together.

xo

November 3, 2008 at 3:33:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Jennifer said...

I check off and on all day...I am so excited :)

November 3, 2008 at 3:36:00 PM PST  
Blogger Jackie said...

ohhh my excitement for you is just making me all giddy! My husband asked me why was I all smiling and bouncing around..and I explained and he was like, wow that is really nice! He sent his well wishes to all of you too! God Bless! Praying for you all!

November 3, 2008 at 3:59:00 PM PST  
Blogger sweetsalty kate said...

No matter how it happens, this is all so fated, so miraculous, so meant to be. The mechanics pale in comparison to the coming together of all these souls to welcome this brand-new one... that's what shines for lifetimes.

So, so thrilled!
xoxo

November 3, 2008 at 4:11:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Viola said...

Wow, how exciting! I am also about to give birth (3 days overdue, baby is definitely waiting for Obama). We are doing a home birth, and have learned a lot from our midwife and from all the research we have done over the past few months about natural birth. The option most often used by midwifes to naturally induce labor is a dose of Castor oil. Best wishes to all of you!

November 3, 2008 at 4:30:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Eat chili. God bless you all.

November 3, 2008 at 4:37:00 PM PST  
Blogger Christine said...

A midwife friend of mine swears by pineapple. If K eats a whole, fresh pineapple (or as much as she can stomach) it should help speed things up. I think it's a GI irritant, which gets everything moving, which is good.

♥ Best of luck to everyone involved, this whole story is so full of love and magic. What a welcome for your little boy.

November 3, 2008 at 5:51:00 PM PST  
Blogger Amy said...

It helped for me to laugh as much as possible during labor...waiting around to push. We had several seasons of 'Friends' that we brought to watch during that time. I especially watched the ones when Phoebe and Rachel were having their babies. :)

I'm so happy for you!!! Your life will NEVER be the same and as you are already starting to realize, the love you have for your baby boy will be unlike any kind of love you've ever known. It is the love that will get you up at night when you are so tired and the love that will allow you to smile when he spits up all over your favorite shirt. You are in my thoughts and prayers and I can't wait to see pictures!!

November 3, 2008 at 6:24:00 PM PST  
Blogger Deirdre said...

Having witnessed several births and coached another I have only a few things to pass along: Breathe; don't take anything personally (laboring women sometimes say things they don't mean and you wish they hadn't); enjoy the pure wonder that is birth - the magic is something you'll be in awe of for the rest of your life.

I'm so happy for you, Denise. This has been a long time coming. I'll be thinking of you all in the next days.

November 3, 2008 at 6:30:00 PM PST  
Anonymous micheline@golden.net said...

Labour is a fairly intuitive experience. With your great listening and observational skills I’m sure you’ll be everything K needs you to be and more.

Every baby’s entry into this world is as unique as they are. Enjoy every minute. It’s just the beginning.

Thinking of you,
Micheline

November 3, 2008 at 6:44:00 PM PST  
Blogger cally said...

my son was born during the whole Gore vs. Bush vs Florida recount thing. There I sat...I mean layed...with my feet in the stirrups and my husband chatting with the doctor about ballots and political fairness between contractions. They'd occasionally turn their attention to me, and then to The Today Show.

I'm excited for you.

November 3, 2008 at 7:00:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

to the Beautiful Boho"s

I want you to accept this huge thank you.. from ''your tribe''.. we thank you for letting us be involved with your wonderful journey...for you to give your precious time to update is very very special.... you know of the wonderful ''following'' you have worldwide ..cant wait to see 3 beaming faces real soon.XXXOOO Carole

November 3, 2008 at 7:26:00 PM PST  
Blogger amanda said...

breath, await, love.

November 3, 2008 at 8:04:00 PM PST  
Anonymous pixiecampbell said...

Hi sweetheart, just popping in to say that castor oil is not a method I would personally consider. My homebirth was helped along by hypnobirthing techniques, visualization, lots and lots of quiet support from my hubs & midwife and a strong belief that my body was made to birth my son simply and gracefully. I want to wish you and your families and this blessed baby boy a safe journey into the world in his perfect time. You will be the perfect doula! Love to you bohos, so much love and support. xoxo p

November 3, 2008 at 8:10:00 PM PST  
Anonymous heather said...

Sending you all much love + care! I am so grateful to have been following your beautiful journey. Wishing you all the best during this MAGICAL time!

November 3, 2008 at 8:51:00 PM PST  
OpenID somethingcheeky said...

oh, I'm so excited for you! My tip...don't ask her a bunch of questions (do you want to...get up, lay down, drink water) just help LEAD her. During the most intense parts of my birth I just wanted someone else to take control for a little while...I could have gone the whole birth without any talking, really!

November 3, 2008 at 9:37:00 PM PST  
Blogger jenica said...

hey baby. so happy that the visualizations were something helpful, i know they've helped me.

if she has back labor and just wants to sit on the toilet, gently push against her knees, pushing back towards her hips, during a contraction. it works wonders.

be prepared to get messy, yucky, and fall completely in love. and yes, laboring women aren't the nicest of people, so don't take anything personally.

i used hypnobirthing and a lot of meditation. their rainbow relaxation cd is what i used through all four of my labors, it really helped to keep me centered, the music is very relaxing.

the cedarwood oil may really help to keep everyone calm too. red raspberry leaf tea about three times a day, evening primrose oil capsules inserted overnight (wear a pad), curb walking, and yes, sex, nipple stimulation, peaceful rest. i think it's all been mentioned before.

the book, natural childbirth the bradley way, taught me things about my body that i never even knew! it's a quick read and can offer a lot of great tips.

i think that K has got to be the best birth mother in the world. what a sweet woman. you are both so lucky to be passing this child between such noble women.

you are wonderful. wheeeeee! enjoy the ride dearie!

loving and believing in you.

November 3, 2008 at 10:27:00 PM PST  
Blogger liz elayne lamoreux said...

the love so very present in this post brought tears to my eyes.

it is all happening exactly as it should. these are the words that seemed to echo in the air around me as i read your words.

blessings to all of you.

November 4, 2008 at 12:04:00 AM PST  
Anonymous lorraine uk said...

Eating fresh pineapple started my contractions,they did slow down and the start again. Also as mentioned sex.
Has k had a sweep?
My boys were both 10 days late so i tried everything.
What a brave and loving women k is, She really touches my soul.

November 4, 2008 at 1:00:00 AM PST  
Blogger Jules said...

don't let anyone talk to her. don't let her use her brain. birth is primal. provide & protect the space. her ancient wisdom will take over.

bless

x

November 4, 2008 at 1:35:00 AM PST  
Anonymous satori17@yahoo.com said...

my son did not want to come out his womb!
in france where i had him they are very much into massaging a certain part of your foot in which brings on labour...it worked! i had him that very night.

spicy food & walking helps too.
also, have her start cleaning!

what is his name?

bliss to you!

November 4, 2008 at 4:38:00 AM PST  
Blogger mary catherine said...

I have been reading your blog quietly & in awe of your journey and just wanted to share in the excitement and congratulations.

I birthed naturally and found walking, breathing long and slow, stretching, and vocalizing to be the biggest helps during labor. It's an animal experience, and mamas should feel free to express things in whatever way nature brings them on. I was a howler! Also the wise words from my mom, "When it feels like you can't do it anymore, it's almost done."

As for natural progression, I found that spicy food, smelling clary sage, long walks, and relaxation were the most helpful ways to spend the final days. Good ways to spend days pregnant or not!

Staying tuned...

November 4, 2008 at 5:34:00 AM PST  
Blogger pink sky said...

the best advice i can think to give is that this baby will have his very own little boho agenda(they always do :) and this last leg of the journey is all part of his story. remember this story for him in all the tiniest of details...even at 36 with no memory of the day i came to my parents, i hold dearest the stories from that magical meant-to-be day. i think of it as my very own fairy tale - happily ever after and all! may yours be full of joy, beauty and wonder. big hugs!

November 4, 2008 at 6:22:00 AM PST  
Blogger Cole said...

Lots of great advice here! So excited for you all!

Red raspberry leaf tea worked for my first one but not my second two.
I had three all natural labours and can't imagine any other way. I didn't even take any of the classes. Birth is a very natural process and your body knows what to do. I found a peaceful place inside myself and rested between contractions. Remember your yoga breathing! I also found it helpful to keep things dark and quiet, it was easier to go into myself. And as mary catherine said, when the panic set in each time, that's when I knew I had hit transition. I focused on that and was pushing the baby out within the hour.

Just keep loving K and the boho baby. It'll be magical.

November 4, 2008 at 9:13:00 AM PST  
Blogger Heather said...

I'm so excited for you!! I had all of my kids naturally. tips?
1. Sit on a birthing ball if you have one, rotate hips around, bounce gently.
2. Walk
3. Help her visualize her cervix opening, her body relaxing.
4. be patient

I can't wait to hear.

November 4, 2008 at 11:33:00 AM PST  
Anonymous tara said...

I had both my daughters naturally at home...it was an awesome experience. working with the pain instead of fighting it was the key for me!
good luck with it all!
congrats!
tara

November 4, 2008 at 1:09:00 PM PST  
Blogger jen said...

Hmmm...you've been quiet today...I wonder if there is going to be some big news soon?

November 4, 2008 at 1:09:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so very excited for you and your family, you deserve this baby, your journey is and has been so wild, maybe you should write a book about it.
I have followed your story for the past year or so, you have made me laugh, you have made me cry....but this is the best news of all, you will have your boho baby very soon. Take care of you D and everything else will fall into place.
VJ

November 4, 2008 at 1:30:00 PM PST  
Blogger Busymomma66 said...

Sex (already said) and nipple stimulation. I tried it all with my second and nothing got her going until she was damn ready herself (but then again she's been like that since she's been born). She kicked me in the ribs while she was crowning as well. lol.

During Labor--walking helped and for back labor--HARD back massage wherever she tells you. I've heard tennis balls rubbed on the back and pressure points help as well.

Good luck and congratulations.

November 4, 2008 at 1:42:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh, I am dying for news!

November 4, 2008 at 2:25:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

waiting ,waiting, very patiently tho:) :) :)Love XXXOOO
Carole

November 4, 2008 at 5:20:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am just as excited for your news as I am for the election results. I keep flipping back and forth between your blog and huff post/cnn. This is one exciting day! Looking forward to a Boho Baby and an Obama President. Fingers crossed!

Love,
Nashay

November 4, 2008 at 5:25:00 PM PST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So excited of this wonderful news!
I have been a devoted follower of your blog, like forever.
I have had two births' both natural. I ate healthy, and practised a very healthy regiment with exercise ect. What worked for me, and for everyone who i have given this recipe for a quick, natural birth is:

1 ounce of raspberry leaves
steeped in 1 pint of boiling water for at least 20 minutes, keep hot, and drink down as quickly as possible.

both my babies were born within 2 hours of labour.
this is as wise woman recipe, and was given well over a hundred years ago to stimulate birthing process. It induces labour if your water has already broken.
If not, then make yourself a tea and drink it daily. Tea should be from the leaves( health food store kind, organic, or from your raspberry bush outside:)) i tsp leaves to i cup water:)
i wish you well.:)

http://www.pregnancy-info.net/QA/answers-can_raspberry_tea_help_induce_labour_naturally/#bottom

rgards,
dee

November 5, 2008 at 2:23:00 PM PST  

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