the boho cure*
me a few hours ago post nose piercing, taken with my camera phone
Last night I had a mommy meltdown. Just sooo tired and premenstrual and unable to calm my poor crying baby (for hours all night long).
So I brought him into my sleeping husband and he saw it on my face and swooped our son up and let me be.
Then I curled up into a ball and cried and bit my nails, while Boho Boy rocked the babes to sleep.
There it was. My first sleep deprived meltdown. I was told it may happen at 3 weeks.
Then I woke up this morning and Omi said to go take a few hours of "me" time outside of the house. She must have seen that I was feeling fragile and guilty and uncertain and confused.
So I gave her a kiss and Cedar a kiss and I went out.
And I drove to one of my favorite beach towns and I got my nose pierced.
And that is all it took.
I felt like me again.
I went home with newly pierced nose and held and rocked my schmook,
and kissed him all over and watched him sleep.
Just a simple nose ring did the trick for me.
It's the boho way...
But in all honesty, it is that reminder that all mommies need to not be afraid to ask for help and to take a deep breath (preferably fresh air) and do something that reminds them of who they are outside of being a mommy.
Bless sweet Omi and my dear husband for being sensitive to what I need.
I think Cedar likes my piercing. He keeps staring at my sparkly nose.
; )
54 Comments:
Love the pierced nose! i wish I still had mine :)
xoxo
Oh my, I pierced my nose just after my daughter was born. It made me feel a little like I hadn't lost my edge as a funky women. Time away from your crying babe is always the ticket. I always returned feeling better and stronger and more capable. You look so great and happy!
I love it! Thank you for being such an honest and inspirational mom (and woman)!
Amy
it looks really good on you!
LOVE it!
I got mine when my kids were really young they don't even notice it and once in a while it catches them off guard. My nephew used to always point at it when he was really little and say 'bawl'...
Anyway you are gorgeous girl! Totally you!
The pics of Cedar are GORGEOUS!
I love it! You look fantastic. I'm glad you got some "me" time and came back feeling refreshed.
Oh my gosh, that is pure awesomeness. I couldn't stop giggling as I read this post. "It is the Boho way" said it all.
The picture of you is adorable. The nose ring looks spectacular on you! It was also fun to see the way your car is spiffed out Cedar-style. :)
perfect! it looks so yummy on you.
xo
awesome! you rock woman!
looks soooo good! you are a beauty!
oh this is just so perfect. i look up to you so much, you are an inspiration!
Your nose was MADE for piercing. It looks great.
must be a mommy thing, because I am getting mine done next week! So happy for you and your little nest.
You dainty thing you. Me, I went out and had my head, I mean my hair, chopped off.
Gorgeous! My tattoo and my navel piercing had similar effects on me.
It looks perfect on you!
Love it :)
Wow i envy your newly pierced nose :) My husband won't let me get mine pierced :(
But i just wanted to say that sometimes you have to get away, you love your baby with all your heart but you do need some alone time. I had a baby 4 months ago and very much like you i went through several long years of infertility. I got pregnant in May 07 and lost the baby, i was so lost and mad. But Dec 26, 07 we found out that we were pg again! I couldn't let myself be happy until i knew everything was okay. But here i am with a gorgeous sweet lovable baby girl. I wanted and loved this baby so much but i cried and and was so sleep deprived that i didn't know what to do when she came. I would beg my husband not to leave me and go to work. Sometimes just getting out and being alone helps. I didn't feel like myself after i had her. It's odd how that happens! But take time for yourself it helps and things will get better with being sleep deprived and everything else that comes when these precious bundles of joy come into your life. I could not wait til my girlie got some age on her but now i would freeze time if i could!
You are such an inspirational person to me and i'm sorry for the long post, but i have always meant to leave a post and never have. But i think you and your husband are awesome!
that is awesome!
You look like a totally beautiful and radiant boho mama!
Awww...you rock. And, yes, three weeks in is just about the breaking point. Sounds like you have lots of support on the reminding-you-to-take-care-of-yourself front, and don't ever be ashamed to accept it...it makes us non-mamas feel so fulfilled and useful and amazingly *needed*. :-) xoxo, Lilia
Yeah!
"… do something that reminds them of who they are outside of being a mommy"
Such a great idea of you, to do something to feel 'you' again.
It looks nice your nose piercing.
Tania
it looks fantastic, like it's always been pierced. it toally suits you...watch out, now you'll be getting inked, heehee, maybe a cedar tree? hehehee.
Very nice Denise!
I'm giving some thought to a piercing too. I've always put it off as it meant I couldn't donate blood for 6 months. However, my iron levels are shot so I can't donate anyway so now would be a good time to go fir it.
Also want to dye my hair a deep pink/red colour. LOL... What's going on with me?
i dig it!
i went back on my birthday and had it redone!
hang in there....take time as you need.
"It's the Boho way" is the greatest sentence ever! :)
I had to scroll up and look at the picture again because your nose piercing just looks so natural - like it's always been there! Yay! Awesome!
I love mine - I've had it done for going on 7 or 8 years now. I wore a blue stone in it recently for our wedding for my something blue! :)
Been there! Good for you for taking care of yourself. It took me years and three children to learn that it is incredibly important FOR our kids that we take care of ourselves. You would think it would be an obvious thing?!
Susie
Fabulous! This mentality will not only sustain you but will allow you to be fully present and give fully to Boho Boy and Cedar. You are so wise to have recognized this early on...it took me almost two years. I think I'm finally getting the hang of it and things are so much better.
it looks beautiful! but watch out, you may have 20 piercings and a few tattoos before the next year is out.
babies change everything....
i have realized that you just have to own it, realize it and be one with it. life changes the moment that baby is put in your arms.
i do miss my old life, my old self, my old bohemian experiences. but there are new ones, new ways, mommy ways. life just morphs into a whole new thing!
you will be fine, we all are!
xo
response to kea's comment - My husband won't let me get mine pierced :(
absolutely NO-ONE can tell you what you can or cannot do - we are free to be who and what we want - choice is your right
he is lucky you call him 'husband'
I had that melt down too, where I took my sweet and screaming baby to my husband and said "I can't do this anymore. It doesn't feel okay at all."
Good for you for having the self awareness and strength to ask for help. Mommyhood is tough but oh so incredibly worth it.
Hugs to you and your nosepierced self!!
I LOVE this post....so open and honest and completely vulnerable! :) I got tears in my eyes and then I laughed. I've been wanting to get my nose pierced for a long time (hubs isn't on board with it) ~ but I could see myself doing the same thing! :)
I'm so glad you "feel" better. ;)
You are a wonderful mommy!
good for you mama!
so WEIRD though..i woke up this morning all like "i need to get my nose repierced". i couldn't explain it but it was just something i needed to do. unfortunately my state is shut down due to a state of emergency because of an impending snow storm, and oh yeah...i'm preggers and nobody will pierce a pregnant mama. so instead i went out, got a delicious drink treat, then went to whole foods and fondled things. and i bought myself a really rockin' hippie hat, which i'm wearing now. so hopefully that will tide me over until my babe arrives...
hugs to you!
Your new nose ring piercing is beautiful!! Sparkly and refreshing - just what you needed after a meltdown. xoxo
a perfect way to bring you back to yourself...I always feel we are much better Mamas when we don't feel like crazy sleep deprived, lacking in all coherent thought, aliens.
The nose is lovely.
So are you.
my boys are 14 and 10 now. but i can clearly remember that super tired sleep deprived time with each of them.
it can feel like they will stay this small forever but they do not. they grow so quickly.
i remember thinking a few days after my first baby was born how much it takes to keep this tiny human alive. i never really knew how many things i could do in a single day.
no one ever really tells you how much you will be doing to sustain your new babe. it's the biggest job ever.
also the best most rewarding job ever!
you are doing great denise! you are an awesome mom!
peace,
meesh
www.michelegoldstein.com
Just look at the girly-giggle* in your eyes! Love you xx
Cute Boho gal! My firstborn had colic really bad, we had to go out and get some Italian tea!!! I don't know whether or not they still have that or not! Poor Damon had that colic BAD!!! UG! I HOPE Cedar doesn't get it! Phew! Fresh air ALWAYS helps!!! Glad YOU got out a bit!
that's my girl!
xoxo
I'm not sure if anyone has told you about the Happiest Baby magic.... Here's a video of a parent using the technique: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WkR_e1L6zxI
and here is the official site for the book: http://www.thehappiestbaby.com/
Yeah, I pretty much felt like this technique saved me when I brought home my little guy. Definitely worth looking into. It really is like magic!
p.s. The nose looks fantastic!
Perfect.
I'm also a big fan of 'The Happiest Baby on the Block'. I heard about it from a friend 5+ years ago and ordered the DVD when our daughter was 3 weeks old. It was amazing to see the techniques used and to add them to our 'bag of tricks' for soothing our wee one. They were so effective and we all felt more peaceful. Now we're on our 3rd happy baby and I've passed the DVD on to 5 friends as shower gifts, making them promise to share the wisdom with their friends, too. ;)
best wishes,
Whitney
gorgeous.
xo,
gem
You are so adorable!
(the word verification below is 'wings'!)
Bless your heart! The piercing brings me back. My roomate and I had a tradition... when everything was falling down around us and we had tried everything to fix it, we would go to our favorite piercer and just let him pick a pretty spot on our nose or ear and do his thing. The quick rush of endorphines sort of centered us again and allowed us to move forward accepting what we could change and what we would just have to let be. You don't know me dear. But I've followed your journey for a while now. The three of you are in my prayers and thoughts often.
so funny - i have my nose earings on my dresser waiting for post baby piercing! it was that or a mommy tattoo! xoxo debra
how beautiful! it really suits you!
boho girl,
you are a GORGEOUS mommy. i mean it. you look so beautiful, and the happiness of motherhood is shining through. :)
Denise, you have that new mommy glow...
i got my navel pierced about 3 weeks after having my muffin. my belly had returned to normal within 2 days, but i still felt.... blah... So I did something about it! rock on!
the nose ring looks GORGEOUS on you! I couldn't pull it off. :-)
Love it! I too had my nose pierced when my first was a wee little bit.
Mommy melt downs are just part of beautiful growing experience. :-)
xo
its funny getting my nose pierced was one of the best things I have done for myself in ages.. it made me feel like me again too..
wow...the only thing I ever did "on those days" was to leave the house for a pedicure...I never even thought of a nose piercing !!
and that rebel like look in your eyes...precious !!!
so cute & so you!! it's as though it was meant to be there. more power to you, boho mama!! ;o)
it really looks fantastic!
so glad that you are taking care of you...
blessings,
liz
Love that cute nose of yours! Miss you! Enjoying everything you are sharing ~ deeply loving every bit of you and your sweet boho family! Cedar is just purrrfect! Perfect! xxox
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